with a bachelors in CIS in my area a lot of jobs will start me off with 50-60K a year before taxes and the like. i would like to be able to vacation annually, have an inground pool, and a functional house, doesnt need to be huge, just one bedroom for me and wife, a bathroom, living room, and a den is all i require. will this cover it?

Do NOT buy a one bedroom house. Almost nobody will want to buy it from you. Get a 3 bedroom, at least. Then you have a big(ger) den and a storage room until the kids come along. Forget the inground pool.

If you build up some savings first, then it is doable in most parts of the country. {I would expect your wife to be working for a few years, too.}

Depends where. Housing is all location. This house in Manhattan doesn't even exist, and if it did, it would be in the millions. And you can buy a whole house in Detroit for $1, but then you live in Detroit.

Really depends on where you live, but for most of the country yes.

depends on where you live, how much you spend