My spouse seem to have a problem with me having my own money and taking care of myself . He always have to say that its our money. He feel like he have to take care of me just so that I can keep depending on him . He never want to listen to what I have to say and belittles me when I tell him about my goals and dreams.

So... did you marry a stranger? Is he an adult and you are not? Or is there something in the dynamics you are developed that assigns you the role of child? You have told us NOTHING to suggest that he is "using" you. Where are you coming from with that? Please give us a clue on that. Most men who desire to be the sole support of their families are not accused of "using" them. So it begs the question... how and why?

Well, your husband isn't the only one who doesn't listen much to their wife's goals and dreams. In no way does this mean that you can not go ahead and pursue them anyway. Go ahead.

If he puts his income all in... not fair if you think your income is all yours though. Everybody shares.. that's the ticket.

He doesn't seem like a guy you would want around. I would talk to him and if he still acts controlling I would consider divorce.

He sounds a bit controlling

Yep

He sounds controlling.

wow