My husband who makes just a little more than I do asked me to pay half of ALL home expenses (im talking mortgage, utilities, association fee, electricity, dish) and dumb me agreed 3 years ago. Lately im the one maxing out my credit cards in order to buy our 2 children and my daughter from a previous relationship clothes, diapers, shoes, accessories and etc. Im really fed up with it....I cant believe I allowed myself to be in this type of marriage :(:(:( growing up I never saw the 50/50 or my mom having to give my dad money...she did when he would be short on a bill or so but he never asked her to. For the most part her seasonal job paid for the fun/fancy stuff that he couldn t afford to give us. I wish my side of our income could be used for fun....we would be traveling and styling LOL but seriously what kind of man does not take care of his wife? it saddens me :(:(:( last night while having an argument I used profanity and he told me not to speak like that in HIS home :(:(:(:( im so tired that im considering moving out but is this the solution? this isn t the first time he has referred to it as HIS house and im sure it wont be the last :( Is this normal now adays? I love him to death but I don t feel like I deserve to be treated like this :) I don t want to talk to my friends and family about it because I know what they are going to tell me so I guess im just wondering if strangers agree with my loved ones....thoughts please and thank you?

You, madam, are what is wrong with this world. Men today are put down, slandered, and discriminated against by radical feminists who are going so far they're reversing the persecution. Women are always talking about how they don't get treated or paid fairly, which is fine to do, but then expect to be treated differently than men whenever you choose. He works just as hard, probably harder than you. You two should pay for everything evenly, including your child. As for your child that is not his, you SLu*t, that's really up to him. If the real father isn't around is a piece of crap, which seems likely based off of how stupid you are, if your husband decides to raise her as his own, great. But if you are getting child support and the other dad can help out, too ******* bad, pau for the kids **** herself. And learn that you are not entitled to everything and stop ******* whining *****.

I've been married almost 10 years.

In our house, there's no such thing as "his & hers" money, and there's no such thing as "his & hers" bills. Everything is ours. The only exception is that we each get a little bit of personal money to spend however we want.

I hate the idea that marriage is a 50/50 relationship. Its not. It never works out because as soon as one person can't pull their weight the marriage is strained. Marriage is about both people being in it together for better or for worse. It means when things are good you enjoy it together and when things are tight you get through it together because that's a heck of a lot better plan than going through the ups & downs alone.

There is nothing wrong with you paying half of the expenses. However. If my husband said something to me about it being HIS house, I would look into making sure my name is on the house as well and start divorce proceedings. No way would I put up with that.

No way is this post written by someone who is old enough to use the computer let alone get married.

1). So you want to be lazy and have fun while someone else takes care of you?

2). Wrong section this is law and ethics, not "relationship issues".

No.